The Death Of A Casual Tuesday Night Out
Why our obsession with staying in might be keeping us from living a little.
Chantal Chen
It’s Tuesday night, and while Carrie Bradshaw and Samantha Jones are dancing their way through Manhattan, I’m tucked into bed, scrolling through my friends’ social media stories of them comfortably resting at home. Our plans to have an evening focused on catching up were quickly abandoned due to excuses of “I’m too tired to go out” or “I just want to stay in tonight.” While I agree with the importance of self-care nights, I couldn’t help but wonder when we stopped going out on Tuesdays.
We live in a generation that constantly indulges in the nostalgia of the past, whether it’s the hopeless romantics yearning for a love like The Notebook or young girls manifesting a friend group like Sex and the City. However, we seem to have forgotten the one crucial factor that jump-started the relationships we reminisce over: going out. Everyone wants the unforgettable meet-cutes and friendships, yet no one seems willing to leave the comfort of their own home to find them.
Going out on a Tuesday used to feel like the norm; it wasn’t an excuse to dress up or attend a fancy event; it was simply just another night. Nowadays, not even a close friend’s birthday is enough to drag someone out of their cozy cocoon. We’ve become so accustomed to living in familiarity that we’ve even stopped putting effort into nourishing our current relationships. By staying in, we also risk missing out on all the potential inside jokes and love interests that could have come our way. How can we expect to live our lives like a movie if we’re too afraid to step out of our comfort zone?
A night of socializing doesn’t need to follow a perfectly coordinated schedule. Sometimes, we can simply ask someone to hang out and figure out the rest along the way. Our willingness to be spontaneous is what makes a casual night out so enjoyable, and oftentimes is what creates the greatest memories. While staying in the safe haven of our home feels comfortable, sacrificing human connections and new experiences is never worth the isolation. So, the next time a friend asks to go out on a Tuesday night, think twice before immediately denying the offer.
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